[21] Building Confidence from Within: A Conversation with the Confidence Queen, Alicia Lechuga

**About The Guest(s):**
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Alicia Lechuga, also known as the Confidence Queen, is a confidence coach and host of the Confident AF podcast. With a background in personal training, Alicia realized that confidence was the missing piece for her clients' success. She now helps her clients find confidence from within, whether it's in their personal lives, relationships, or businesses.
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**Summary:**
In this episode, Melissa Janson interviews Alicia Lechuga, the Confidence Queen, about the importance of confidence and how to cultivate it. Alicia shares her journey from being a personal trainer to becoming a confidence coach and explains why confidence is more than just your outward appearance. She emphasizes the need to step out of your comfort zone and take small steps towards building confidence. Alicia also addresses common misconceptions about confidence, such as the belief that it is something you are born with or that it is synonymous with arrogance. She highlights the importance of community and support in building confidence and shares insights from her Baddie Girls Club coaching program.

Connect with Alicia on IG at https://www.instagram.com/theconfidencequeen__/
Listen to her podcast at https://www.instagram.com/confidentafpodcast/
​Get on the Baddie Girls Club wait list at https://www.theconfidencequeen.com/baddies-2024

Transcript

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0:00:00 - (Melissa): Welcome to My Life Is a Saturday, the podcast that helps you live your best life by embracing a Saturday mindset. I'm your host, Melissa Janson, and each week I'll be sharing my experiences and interviewing guests who have learned how to make the most out of every day. From tips on how to develop a positive mindset to ideas for living a more fulfilling life, we'll cover it all. So get ready to let go of your worries, embrace your passions, and live life for the fullest.

0:00:26 - (Melissa): Ready to dive in? Let's go ahead. Oh, my gosh. Holy cow. Welcome to episode 21 of the podcast. I am so excited. Today I have a very special guest. The Confidence Queen Alicia Lechuga is here, and she is going to talk to us all about confidence. Before I let her start talking to you, I want to give you a little bit of background. Her role as a confidence coach really formed when she was a personal trainer and realized that no matter how much her clients were working out in the gym, losing weight and staying consistent with their goals, there was something missing.

0:01:06 - (Melissa): Confidence was the missing piece, and it was so much more than your outside image. Now she helps her clients find the confidence from within, whether it's in their business, their personal lives, or relationships. And she also hosts the Confidence Fuck podcast, which is the most fun part of her job. Welcome, Alicia.

0:01:23 - (Alicia): Thank you so much for having me. I am so excited. I love doing podcast swaps, so I'm so excited to be here, and I love your whole motto as My life is a Saturday. I love it. So I'm so excited to be here. Thank you for having me.

0:01:38 - (Melissa): Oh, of course. This is amazing. Thank you for being here. And I think let's just start out, how did you become the Confidence Queen? We did a little bit in your bio, but in your own words, how did it spark?

0:01:52 - (Alicia): So you mentioned, yes, I was a personal trainer, and I really loved that. I loved being able to work with women. And like I said in my bio, I started off wanting to improve women's lives. That's really where I started from. I had a YouTube channel about it. That's really what I was about. But then it got to this point where it was okay. Like, no matter how much my clients were improving, no matter how consistent, they were coming to me three times a week, staying consistent, even losing weight, it was like something was missing. So I started integrating these sessions that were like lifestyle chats, I guess at the end of their sessions, some weeks, so sometimes they would be 30 minutes, sometimes they'd be an hour, and then it kind of turned into, like, that's. All my clients really wanted to do was talk about how they could improve their lives through whether it was confidence, their eating habits, how they could feel better in their own skin.

0:02:51 - (Alicia): And when COVID hit and I was training less and less, I really had this choice, like this fork in the road where I was like, okay, I don't really give a fuck to post these workout videos anymore. I love working out, but I didn't want to post the workout videos anymore. And I was working with a coach, and she was like, okay, what do you really want to be talking about? And so I was like, I really want to talk about confidence. And I had gone on my own food freedom journey and kind of working out in a different way journey. And I had really started to embrace confidence at every size.

0:03:28 - (Alicia): I had really started to embrace my body for how it was right now and not at the end goal. And so I had this feeling where I was like, I feel like I need to rebrand. And I don't know, I was just like, the confidence queen just came to me. And since then, I never turned back. I still love working out. I just recently stopped taking in person clients. But really, my whole brand is confidence as a whole.

0:03:54 - (Alicia): Not only through working out, not only through the gym, not only through your eating habits, but just you who you are right now. So that's how it came to be.

0:04:04 - (Melissa): I love that that's such a journey. And I love that it wasn't just like your personal trials fit into also helping other women come through it, because I think confidence is such a thing that a lot of us have struggles with and a lot of society puts body image at the center of confidence. But it feels like confidence can be so much more than that and include more than that. It does.

0:04:34 - (Alicia): Yeah. I have this saying that everything is everything. So if you're not feeling confident in your body and so you change your body and you become more confident in clothing, then what happens when you want to go on a date or you want to start a business or you're doing public speaking or whatever it is? Right. That lack of confidence in who you are as yourself shows up in other areas. So no matter if we fix, quote, unquote, the body and we have this rock and bod, but we're still not comfortable in other areas, we still have to work on our confidence. Right? So confidence really comes from within.

0:05:14 - (Alicia): It has nothing to really do with our outside appearance.

0:05:19 - (Melissa): Yeah, I love that. So if the person listening right now is like, oh, I'm struggling with my confidence, I don't know what to do, and they've tried focusing on all those outward things. What would you say is like, their first step or their first consideration?

0:05:37 - (Alicia): I always talk about getting out of your comfort zone because practice makes better, more practice. And the quote is, practice makes perfect. But I don't believe in perfect. So I feel like getting out of your comfort zone is where I always have my clients really start is do something that makes you uncomfortable, right? We don't get more confident in the gym by staying away from the gym. We don't get more confident wearing the clothes that we want to wear by putting on his baggy sweatshirt every single day, right?

0:06:07 - (Alicia): We get more confident by doing it more and more. So whatever it is that you're trying to be more confident in doing, we have to start taking that first step and putting ourselves outside of our comfort zone. So it start with what do you want to be more confident in and what makes you uncomfortable, and take the path of least resistance in that, right? So take like, let's say you want to get on your Instagram stories more and promote your business more and you want to show your face more.

0:06:33 - (Alicia): Maybe right now you don't feel confident without a filter or without makeup on or without a specific outfit on. Start there. Start in your comfort zone, but do one small thing out of your comfort zone, which might be getting on camera and showing your face. Start really small. Maybe it's a selfie. Maybe it's like one slide where you're talking about it and then the rest are premade slides. Whatever it is, start small.

0:06:57 - (Alicia): Start it's in the path of least resistance and go from there and keep going.

0:07:03 - (Melissa): I love that advice on the podcast. We talk a lot about not going from zero to 100, just going from zero to zero one or zero one. And it's those teeny tiny steps that helps you build your belief in yourself. When it comes to building confidence, though, or taking those steps, at least in my experience, impostor syndrome will come up a lot. Or the belief that I obviously can never do anything other than everything I've already done.

0:07:33 - (Melissa): And so what advice would you give to someone who wants to is struggling with that?

0:07:40 - (Alicia): Imposter syndrome is so hard. Imposter syndrome is so fucking hard. But sometimes I think about with imposter syndrome, the person that's doing it right now that you're looking up to that you're like, oh, I could never do that. They didn't start at the top, right? They started exactly where you started. And they also had to get over that imposter syndrome, too. So if nobody ever got over their imposter syndrome, we wouldn't have great people out there doing the great things that we want to.

0:08:12 - (Alicia): You know, it's really funny. I always keep thinking about this movie lately, and I don't know why. This movie keeps popping into my head. Are you like a Mary Kate and Ashley fan?

0:08:20 - (Melissa): Oh, yeah.

0:08:21 - (Alicia): Okay. Do you remember that movie? I think it's called I don't think maybe. It might be it takes two. Anyways, it's the one where they like, oh, it's to grandmother's house. They go, okay, so their mom's boyfriend or something like that ends up saving them. Well, the mom's boyfriend is addicted to playing the lottery, and he plays the lottery every day, and he buys the lotto ticket from the mom every single day at the gas station.

0:08:49 - (Alicia): And she says to him, why do you keep playing the lottery? And he says, There has to be a winner every day, and it might as well be me. And I don't know why I keep thinking of that quote, but it has to be someone, right? So why isn't it us? Why isn't it you? If you have a passion about something, whatever it is, why can't you be the next person that takes it to the top? The podcast market is so fucking saturated, they say, right?

0:09:19 - (Alicia): But something about you is different than anybody else that's doing a podcast. So why can't you be the next Joe Rogan? The next I forgot even her name. But him and hers podcast. I forget her name. But you know what I'm saying. Why can't it be you? Why can't it be us? Why can't it be you? It could be anybody. And I feel like everybody goes through that stage. Imposter syndrome is so normal. So I feel like some of the stuff that we were talking about Chelsea earlier, some of the stuff that she talks about with sabotage is going in this circle and ruminating.

0:09:55 - (Alicia): And I feel like we have this thought that we're going to start and then we are going to fail, and then we ruminate on this fact that, oh, my gosh, I'm in this imposter syndrome, and now I'm beating myself up over this imposter syndrome. First of all, we have to give ourselves grace. Like, imposter syndrome is so fucking normal. If you don't have imposter syndrome, you might be like a psycho. So I feel like impostor syndrome is so normal, everyone deals with it. So I think it's just about embracing it and then still moving.

0:10:27 - (Melissa): Yeah, I I don't know if you watch The Kardashians, but in the most recent episode, kim even talks about impostor syndrome. And she's in a lot of ways, at the quote top. She has this massive career. She has a following. She has everything, but she still deals with it when she comes to events or goes to whatever she does, take that hot selfie. And so I think that your advice is stellar and on point, I want to talk a little bit about getting into loops I don't know if you're familiar with. I talk a lot about the inner mean girl, and it's like that voice of rudeness and doubt within ourselves and ways to overcome her.

0:11:14 - (Melissa): And sometimes when we're stuck in the loop, the best way, I think, is to acknowledge that she's hanging out with us and to separate yourself from her. But have you ever struggled with kind of like that concept, the inner mean girl?

0:11:27 - (Alicia): Oh, yeah, tons. Actually, just recently, a mean girl. She can be so mean. But it's so funny because I was just acknowledging this inner mean girl to my husband because he was like, why are you in such a bad mood? What's your problem? Because when the inner mean girl is being mean to me, all I want to do is be mean to everyone else. So I'm mean, to my husband, who is my direct person that I'm around all the time, and I'm, like, lashing out because I'm being mean to myself anyway. So, yeah, I was just struggling with that recently because I was feeling like I'm not doing enough.

0:12:09 - (Alicia): And that is 100% my own perception, right? And that's exactly what he was saying. Is he's like, I'm never telling you that. I'm never expressed to you that I feel like you're dropping the ball or that you're not doing enough or that I want you to do more or whatever. And I'm like, yeah, I know it's not you. It is 100% me. And it is like that mean girl inside of me just telling me, like, bitch, you can do better.

0:12:37 - (Alicia): You can do more, or you're not doing enough, or you're letting everybody down. I mean, that's a real thing that happens, I feel like, no matter what. And I feel like as I've transitioned to owning my own business and me and my husband own our own business together, it doesn't get better or easier. It almost gets worse. And then it's harder because it is your own business. So it's like there's no one else to really pick up the slack or to blame. So I feel like it's more imperative to be able to acknowledge it and then to be able to alchemize it.

0:13:16 - (Alicia): When you own your own business, it's much more important.

0:13:21 - (Melissa): Definitely. I've had a few businesses, and my INTerming girl has gotten me in all of them. And I'm like, oh, shit. You said that you talked with your husband about it, but were there any steps that you took to get out of that spiral?

0:13:39 - (Alicia): Yeah, first of all, acknowledging it like you mentioned, talking about it, I think, out loud, is also really helpful. So I not only talked about it with my husband, I also talked about it with my coach and also then my best friend. And then what I usually do is I've done this a few times when it gets really bad is I usually take a step back and I ask myself, like, I ask myself for proof, first of all, of all, the things that I'm doing. So whether that be, like, making a list or just verbalizing it out loud, I make a list of, like for me, what I was struggling with, right, was like, I'm not doing enough. So I'm looking for proof of all the things that I'm holding, right? So whether that be making a list of it or speaking out loud, like I said, I find proof, like, how am I actually doing so fucking much? I am doing so much. So let me prove that to myself.

0:14:34 - (Alicia): And then I look at proof in the past. So I look at, like, look at all the things that you've done before. Look at all the different times you've held more than this. You know, you can do this. And then I take another step back where I look at, okay, what is bringing me joy? And that's been a really big thing I've looked at this year, is what's actually bringing me joy every single day. Because I feel like a lot of this inner mean girl starts to come out when I'm really not fulfilling myself.

0:15:05 - (Alicia): And so that comes in the form of movement, making sure I'm taking time to myself, getting out of my own space, getting out of my house. What am I doing that's actually bringing me joy? And I get back to that. And then I also go back to in terms of my own business, I go back to my original mission, and what am I doing all this for, right? There's no reason to own our own business if we're going to be unhappy every day and chain to our desk.

0:15:32 - (Alicia): So what am I doing this for? I'm doing this for time freedom. I'm doing it because it's what I love. I'm doing it for inspiration to other women. So how can I get back to those roots and really stick into that? And so those are, like, the most prominent steps that I usually take when those thoughts start to come in, which has happened to me quite a few times in my business.

0:15:56 - (Melissa): Same girl. I think it's so prominent. But those are great steps. And movement is definitely like, my go to because I realize that most of the intermingle is because I'm sitting here, like, having 14 conversations with myself about myself, and I'm like, okay, out of the head into the body. How can we move through it? Now, you help clients. Would you help clients in their business, in their personal life? What does your client experience look like?

0:16:30 - (Alicia): Well, it's in both, but most of my clients are entrepreneurs, almost all. But it starts with interpersonal life, and usually that goes out into business. I do want to do more in business because it's just something I really love. And I have done a few business focused courses, but mostly it starts with personal life and really just getting into the inner work of yourself and loving that first. So it radiates out everywhere else. And that goes into relationships, whether it be your significant other or it be with your parents or your friendships or relationships or business, whatever it is that goes into, like I said, relationships, business, everything else, it ripples out.

0:17:24 - (Melissa): I love that. I know when I was coaching, a lot of the times I would come across people who weren't sure if coaching was for them. And so how would somebody know if they're listening to this and they're like, I love her vibe, I think I need to work on my confidence. How would they know that coaching with you would be like, a path to take?

0:17:49 - (Alicia): That's a good question. I feel like, well, coaching is really like a kind of new concept, right, for a lot of people. I see coaching from many different perspectives. Like, if you're looking for someone that is directly going to tell you how to run your business and how to make more money in your business through like a masculine vibe. Even though my human design chart would say that I am 99% masculine, that is definitely not me as a coach.

0:18:22 - (Alicia): As a coach, I'm going to take a more feminine approach because we're going to go through all the layers. So if you're somebody who's like, I want to feel more comfortable in my skin, I want to exude that baddie type of self, I want to excel in everywhere that I go because I feel comfortable and confident in myself, then that's really what I love to do as a coach. And that's really what my coaching experience is about.

0:18:46 - (Alicia): I do love masculine business things, but that's typically not where my coaching starts. So yeah, if you're looking to, like I said, feel at home in yourself, feel confident, feel like your most baddie self, that is where my coaching is and that would be a great reason to coach with me.

0:19:07 - (Melissa): I like that. I feel like a lot of coaching. I think choosing a coach and with coaching being kind of like this more up and coming thing, I think it's really important to also make sure that you gel with your coach. I've had a few coaches and one of them was I've actually had two male coaches. And speaking of masculine, it was like very much I didn't vibe both of the containers I left before we were done because it was just like, this is too much. So being self aware enough to know whether or not you have specific, I guess triggers is also helpful.

0:19:46 - (Melissa): And I want to talk a little bit about like, when we were getting planning our podcasting, you mentioned the Baddie Girls Club. Can you tell me more about that?

0:19:57 - (Alicia): Yes. That is my favorite coaching container I've ever created, ever done. It's a six month container. So basically this coaching container came from a point that we were kind of talking about where Intermean Girl was like, at all time high for me. I got in this huge fight with my husband publicly in front of all of his family, and it was a really low point for me. And my husband was like, you have to scale back. You have to calm yourself down. Like, you are doing way too much and you're overrun.

0:20:31 - (Alicia): Right? And I was just lashing out. So I took time off in my business and during that time off, I implemented a lot of these steps that we were talking about before, and it was crazy that I was still working. Like, I was still working for my husband's business. I was still working a little bit for myself. I was actually launching the podcast during that time. But it was crazy how taking these few steps to really tune into myself and make myself a priority, that my life completely transformed, my relationship transformed. It was just insane what a few months did for me.

0:21:07 - (Alicia): And so when I was coming out of that, I was like, I need to make this into a program. This needs to be a program. And what was also really important to me when creating it was I didn't just want it to be just me teaching from my perspective. I wanted to bring in other coaches that taught in their specific niches. So baddie. Girls club. The reason it's called a club is because it is seven different coaches. So me and six other coaches that are teaching in the six month container.

0:21:37 - (Alicia): And so every single month, you get a different coach that's teaching you along with me, and they give you their different expertise, whether it be Chelsea comes in and teaches. We have someone talking about alignment. We have breath work, we have shadow work, sabotage, the whole nine nutrition. Everyone is different and in their own modality. So every single month we go through a different phase, and a speaker lines up for that phase. So I love it because you don't only get one perspective, you get seven, which is really awesome.

0:22:14 - (Alicia): So it's a six month container. We're relaunching. The one that's going right now is actually ending at the end of this month. So we're relaunching for January, and we're going to do a waitlist. So the Waitlist, by the time this podcast goes up, the waitlist will be up. So I'll have a link for you for that if you want to join the waitlist. Basically, you get a one on one call with me. You also get a discount on the program, and then you get first access to the programs.

0:22:42 - (Alicia): I love that program so much. I could talk about it forever, but it's like the culmination of everything that I experienced in the last two or three years of healing, plus other coaches and getting to experience the group, the community. It's all around amazing.

0:23:01 - (Melissa): Oh, it sounds so cool, and I love it. It sounds like it's more of like a holistic approach to building your confidence versus just, like, taking one avenue. And I love that you have other people come in because it's like seven for one. I'm always looking for the steal of the deal, and that's definitely it.

0:23:21 - (Alicia): Yeah, I love that aspect too. It started really small where I was just like, hey, do you want to come in and maybe do a guest speaking spot? And then it just kind of snowballed from there where I was like, this is such a I don't see anybody else really doing that unless it's in kind of like a Mastermind, which has a super high ticket usually, and this is going to be around mid ticket.

0:23:43 - (Melissa): That's great. And the women that are in it right now, can you touch on some highlights that they've been having?

0:23:54 - (Alicia): Yeah, so I always offer for people to rejoin at the end of my program. So right now we have three women in one who rejoined from the last round and then two others. One of her big things was she was living with a roommate and she had been living with this roommate but was super unhappy. And throughout the six Mean, within almost like the first two months, she was voiced this we do this miracle or magic morning practice. I don't know what it's called. It's from Gala. I took her one of her morning practices and put it into the program. And we do this morning practice every morning where we talk about future desires. And one of her future desires was to have her own apartment. And it was like literally as soon as she spoke it into existence, she took action.

0:24:41 - (Alicia): She's been in her own apartment for the majority of the program because like I said, she kind of took action super quick. So that's one of the biggest highlights. The other one is having people rejoin is always super exciting because it means that not only the program and learning from the program is really cool, but the community is really strong. So last time we only had two people in this time we have three. So I'm wanting to build it every single time.

0:25:09 - (Alicia): And then we're also doing a little baddie fest at the end of this one, which I'm really excited about. I can't give all the details away of it because the baddies who are in it right now, it's kind of a surprise for them. But we're doing like a little in person meetup because it just so happens that all the women that are in it this time are in SoCal. So that's another really exciting point. And hopefully next year at the end, maybe some people fly in and if they're out of state and we'll do like an in person meetup where we can get together with the people you've been communicating with in Telegram all year, you can get to meet in person and have community with.

0:25:53 - (Melissa): That sounds so freaking fun. I've been in a few different group programs and you make friends and everything, but to be able to have conversations in person where you're not just like, here's a mini podcast for you to double speed through or whatever, that sounds so cool. And I love that person who took immediate action after speaking what they wanted and getting their apartment. I think that for a lot of us, sometimes we get so in our head about the reasons that we can't do something that once you express that to another person and not just your intermingle and you guys are going back and forth, it really opens up your mind to that.

0:26:37 - (Melissa): What you want is the possibility and the desire that's on your heart is yours for a reason. So I'm so excited that she's like living. I have my own getting my own apartment experience. And once my friend was like, my biggest thing was I have move to I wanted to move out of Washington and I ended up moving to Las Vegas after my girlfriend was like, you're always going to have debt if you're going to play in this, then you will and why not just move? And I was like, oh shit. So by the next weekend, I had an apartment in Las Vegas and I was out.

0:27:11 - (Alicia): I was like, okay, I know it's cool when you not only express it to people and they cheer you on, but I think she was saying it every like every day. She was like, and my future desires, I'm going to have my own apartment and it's going to be decorated how I want. And then the cool thing about it is that everybody hears those messages. So it's not just like you're throwing that message out into the universe as you would if you're speaking affirmations into the mirror or something like that, but everyone in the group is like, yes, bitch, go.

0:27:41 - (Alicia): You get that apartment. Are you going? How's the apartment hunting going? We're kind of like keeping each other accountable in a really supportive way. So it was really cool to see.

0:27:53 - (Melissa): Yeah, that's awesome. And the other thing I like about this is the community, like community of people who are like minded. And I think that there are so many communities to be a part of out in the world and especially you see on social media, but finding people who are after the same goal, even if our goals are different, the same genre of learning and growing is so helpful for going where you want to go.

0:28:23 - (Alicia): It is. It's crazy when you get around people who are wanting to grow, who are wanting to improve their life and aren't scared to be vulnerable and who are just putting it out there and who are willing to support you even though they don't really know you yet. It's like really refreshing. It's something I didn't experience until a long time in my coaching career. I mean, as a coach. E not as a coach, but as someone who is being coached. I don't know. In my coaching experience, I didn't join a group container until a long time, until almost two years into being with my one on one coach. And when I did, I really loved it because like I said, people don't even know you. They're halfway across the country and they're still rooting for you. They know. Your life. It's just really cool. It's kind of like being on social media and being friends with somebody on social media and you know, their whole life, but you don't never met them.

0:29:20 - (Alicia): It's kind of similar to that.

0:29:23 - (Melissa): Yes, I have a few friends like that. Like, love you. I don't know if we'll ever meet, but yeah, you always have my support from over here. I want to transition, and if you're interested in the Baddie Girls Club, the link for the waitlist will be in the show notes. But I want to transition back into confidence a little bit. In your experience, what common misconceptions do people have about confidence?

0:29:53 - (Alicia): Well, we touched on one, right? That it's your outward appearance. I think that's one of the biggest. I think the other one is that the difference between confidence and arrogance. So confidence, I feel like a lot of times is like and I thought this too, that it's like a big, like, fuck you to everybody, and I don't care what anybody says, and I'm just doing my own thing. I'm in my own world. And I think that's very misconstrued with arrogance.

0:30:22 - (Alicia): I feel like confidence a lot of times is a lot more silent. And confidence is knowing who you are. And even though someone may say something, it doesn't mean anything about you. That's what I feel like confidence is versus I feel like sometimes when I used to think of confidence, I used to think of like, if people were to say something or people were to think something about me, then I was like, fuck you. I don't care what you say, your opinion doesn't matter because you're not paying my bills.

0:30:52 - (Alicia): And I don't really think that is true confidence, right? Because confidence is almost like being listening and allowing other people to say something, but not letting it mean anything about you. Because everyone is going to have an opinion, right? Everyone has an opinion, and that's okay. And then also being able to look at other people's opinions and say, okay, is there some truth to that? And not being so defensive. I feel like I was so defensive before. I was confident. I was so, so defensive.

0:31:26 - (Alicia): There was another one that I thought of while I was speaking of a misconception about confidence, and now I can't remember it, but outward appearance, arrogance, oh, this is another one that I definitely used to believe is that confidence is something that you are born with or not. And so stupid that I even thought that. I feel like now that I'm even saying it out loud. But my husband is really confident.

0:31:53 - (Alicia): And I used to think that he was just born that way because it felt like to me that he was very different than his brothers and that he was so confident and other people's opinions didn't affect him. And then slowly as I started to gain my own confidence, I realized, like, oh, no, this is like a learned behavior that I've been taught not to feel confident or I've been shamed in ways for feeling a certain way about myself or whatever.

0:32:27 - (Alicia): And confidence isn't something you're born with. Everybody can be confident. You just have to work at being confident.

0:32:34 - (Melissa): Yeah. The skill that you can definitely build. But just like you, I thought that people were born with confidence, especially growing up, I was always like, oh, that girl, she's always just so confident. But as I've become older and had more experiences and worked on myself, I realized that even though the struggle may feel personal to you, there's 7 billion people in the world, other people are having the same exact struggle.

0:33:04 - (Melissa): And I think this confidence and building confidence fits so well into building a life that feels like a Saturday. Because a lot of the times when we were talking about my life is Saturday, I created an acronym for it. So it's magic, laughter, imagination, adventure, and sun, sunshine, sunsets, whatever you have. But building those little moments into your day and into your lifestyle without working also on your confidence is just not going to really feel that great.

0:33:40 - (Melissa): It's not going to feel very true and lovey and wonderful.

0:33:45 - (Alicia): Well, we have to be confident enough to experience those things, right? And allow ourselves to experience those things.

0:33:54 - (Melissa): Exactly. Okay, I have a few questions, but I feel like just in the progression of talking, we've covered the majority of the questions that I've had. So I guess unless you have a point you really want to talk about, we can.

0:34:16 - (Alicia): I don't think so. I feel like the questions were so good. Okay, you're so prepared.

0:34:23 - (Melissa): Chat GPT was really helpful. You use chat GPT for the questions. That's so awesome. Yeah, I give it some ideas of what I want to talk about or whatever, and then it gave me some options. But, yeah, I chat GPT everything except for most of my instagram captions. Those are from the heart. I love writing, being vulnerable on there, but otherwise, chat GPT's great brainstormer. Anyways, before I ask you 1 second here, I will ask you the last question.

0:34:59 - (Melissa): I will give you the opportunity to let the people know where you are, but we'll get into that in a second. So I'd like to hear your personal take on what my life as a Saturday means to you.

0:35:12 - (Alicia): Okay, I have two takes on this, so Saturday to me is always like a day where you're free and you're kind of, like, open to whatever possibility. When I think of a Saturday, that's what I think of, like, open to whatever is coming. You're probably excited about something. So that's what I think about. When I think of my life as a Saturday, I'm like, OOH, that's so juicy. Because it's like the world is your oyster on a Saturday, right? Like, you're off work, you've been off work since Friday. Night, usually if you're working a nine to five or you have boundaries in your business and your Sunday is open usually too, and you don't have to worry about going back to work. So it's like, so juicy to think of a really open, free day.

0:35:58 - (Alicia): And I love that you had sunshine in there, too, because I always think of being out in the world on a Saturday. And then when you asked me that question in the email when we were prepping for the podcast, I was like, it reminds me of something we do in Baddie Girls Club, too, is talk about your dream day, and every day can be your dream day, right? Like, what are you actually valuing, and how are you bringing that to fruition through your daily actions?

0:36:25 - (Alicia): And so when I think about dream day and my life is a Saturday, it kind of goes hand in hand. And so when I think of what my dream day is, I always think of, like, I'm doing some sort of work, right? I'm progressing my business forward in some type of way, whether that be I'm checking in with my emails a little bit. I have a touch on what's going on in my work life. I'm spending time with my significant other.

0:36:52 - (Alicia): I'm usually out, like I said, in the sunshine or doing something, probably having a mimosa, going out to eat something and then relaxing. Like I said, my whole motto this year has been bringing joy. And those are all things that bring me a lot of joy.

0:37:08 - (Melissa): I love it. I absolutely love that answer. It's always so fun to hear other people's takes on what my life for Saturday is like. And your perfect day. And my perfect day are pretty. They're a couple of kaleidoscope turns from each other, but love the mimosa, love the significant other. Love the eating out. You said that. I said sushi. Yes, definitely. Right there. Okay, I didn't prep you for this, but what is your favorite emoji?

0:37:40 - (Alicia): My favorite emoji? Well, it has to be the crown, for sure. That would probably be my favorite, but it's not probably my most used. My most used is probably like, the pink heart. It's probably my most used.

0:37:55 - (Melissa): Yes. We'll go with the crown because it's your favorite. And obviously the Confidence Queen needs a crown. Where can the people find you online?

0:38:06 - (Alicia): You can find me on Instagram at the Confidence Queen with two underscores at the end. And you can find the podcast at Confident AF podcast on Instagram. Yeah, you can find me on my podcast, Confident as Fuck, and that's really where I live. I really try to stick with Instagram as one platform, and I really have not ventured to a lot of other platforms, which I know I should, but I haven't yet. We're working on the YouTube channel for Confident as Fuck podcast, which is really exciting.

0:38:37 - (Alicia): So I'm going to try to use our swap as one of the first YouTube videos that goes live so you can look us up on YouTube and yeah, that's pretty much it.

0:38:47 - (Melissa): That's awesome. I love that. So if you're listening to this episode and you're like, I have to connect with the Confidence Queen, go send her Crown emoji to let her know that you came from the My Life is a Saturday podcast and the hurt us talking here. And I hope that your DMs or your comments are just flooded with Crown emojis, because that would be so cool. And I think that's about it. Thank you so much for joining me today and being a guest of my podcast and to the listener, I hope that you are inspired to build your confidence and create your dream life that always feels like a Saturday.

0:39:25 - (Melissa): Until next time, bye.

0:39:27 - (Alicia): Thank you so much for having me.

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